I don't see boylove as being without sexual desire.

For me sexual desire is a very powerful and compelling part of boylove. It can be the sourse of much frustration, temptation and dissapointment.

I believe we can accept the sexual desire without having to embrace it.

I think it is common for BLs to come to a place where they realise that their feelings are not going to change. In a christian context one then is left with 3 paths:

1. God don't want me this way.... but I can't change therefore either God has rejected me or I have failed God.

2. God wants me this way (since He's not changing me) therefore it must be ok to be this way and I should embrace it, be who I am and go out and love the people I'm attracted too, including sexually.

3. God wants me this way (since He's not changing me) but He also wants me to restrain my sexual desires to within holy boundaries which means not acting out sexually with boys but being free to love them in holy ways.

I see myself in the third camp and you in the second.

But I also think boylove, if we ignore the sexual desire for a moment, is still more than a non-bl parent/mentor/friend etc... because the emotional connection we feel with the boys we love is far stronger. We don't just "love" them, we "adore" them.... and I beleive that means much more than we just want to sex them.

Blessings
Cat.