Wow Dakota... what a brave post. Thanks for sharing that.

I have the deepest respect for you not wanting to share your details for public disection and thank you for sharing what you have. I want to tread cautiously becase of potential pain this discussion may cause you but I trust from what you have written thus far that you have it balanced enough to continue.


In the principal of "never engage a boy sexually" I'm in a 100% agreement with you.



My concern with your stand however is simply that if it's based on the "it will most often cause harm" arguement then it won't hold up because too many BLs either know from experience that it's not true or just have no other evidence to prove to them that it is.

I myself had a positive experience of boy sex as a child... and the experience brought trauma into my life no dobut about it. But it was social reaction that did that.. as I've already stated.

I've read two books of significance to this subject.
The first was called, "From Victum to Abuser". It presented four case studies of sex offenders in the light of their personal histories. Of the four only one was actually traumatised in some way by the sexual activity and he had been sodomised painfully with various objects by groups of men... not a typical man/boy senario. The others had all seen their sexualisation as a positive or neutral thing.

The second was called, "The man they called a monster". It told the account of a man who had had sexual relationships with hundreds of boys and was eventually caught out because a parent overheard their son talking with another boy about the man and what was going on. The man went to a reporter (the book's author) told his story and then suicided. The reporter claims that when the man was reported in the news papers as a monster he (the reporter) had many calls from ex-lovers of this man... now adults in healthy heterosexual relationships... calling him to say "the guy wasn't a monster at all... we have good memories of him".

It's not a lot to build a case on by any means... but it significanly shows that there IS published material out there to disprove the "always harmful" idea.

Unbelievers are going to justify what they want to do regardless of the arguments.

I think as Christians we need to base our stands firmly on the word of God not on psychological perceptions that can change with every new wind of "data" that comes along. Some people have had bad experiences (like yourself), but others have had good ones or mixed ones. Better to say, "we must all stand before the judgement of God and account for ourselves and it is better to have a millstone necklass and be cast into the depths of the ocean than to cause a young beliver to stumble into sin".... and other such things as our reasons to NOT sex boys.

Blessings Bro
and thanks again for sharing.

Cat.