Hi Godspell,

Sorry for the delay replying. Responses about the survey have kept me busy. I'll try to keep this short.

First of all, I'll admit up front that you may well be right about the lack of correlation on this issue. Maybe I am under a completely wrong assumption. In fact, it's looking like that already -- or, at the very least, that I may be overestimating the percentages.

In my experience not even half of the BLs I have talked with had a sexual relationship of any kind with an older person when they were prepubescent.

Well, "not even half" DOES sound significant. If it's even 30-40%, that, to me, shows at least some correlation. I'm not saying you're suggesting numbers like that ... I just mean that I'm under no illusions we're talking about some sort of 100% correlation or anything ... just that it might be a factor (along with a lot of other possible factors).

Having sex, whether it is a positive or negative experience, does NOT change your sexual orientation no matter your age.

So, to take this to an extreme, are you saying that if an adult male has sex with a boy repeatedly from when he is age 6 through age 10 -- a serious abuse case -- that there will be ABSOLUTELY NO POSSIBLE affect on the boy's later sexual identity? [If he turns out gay, it would have happened anyway, no matter what -- the abuse did NOT play a role?]

For example, Cat has had sex with his wife I assume. He is still a BL.

I don't really see how adult-adult sex is relevant.

IF age mattered than EVERY boy who ever had sex with a man would be a BL which is not true.

Agreed, it is not true. But the statement seems a little silly to me. It's like saying, because I had a hamburger last Friday night and was throwing up on Saturday morning (true!), that everyone who had a hamburger last Friday night would also be throwing up on Saturday morning. There are so many possible factors, you just can't say that. And, similarly, one can't say that everyone who had adult-child sex as a child will become a BL, as an adult. I wasn't suggesting that, by any stretch. I was just suggesting -- and it has been my belief up until now -- that there probably are quite a few cases where the adult-child relationships does impact the child's sexual development, possibly having an affect on their identity. But there are so many factors that could come into play to account for why one person might react in one way, and another might react in a completely different way (to similar experiences).

Anyway, just wanted to clarify my view.

Blessings,
Rainboy