I didn't mean to imply that any boylover who has a sexual encounter with a boy is a monster. I would only classify those who force themselves on a boy with no thought of the boy's well being as monsters, and even then, only God can judge what's truly in a man's heart. I only meant to state as briefly as possible that we are (or should be) judged by what we do, not by what we think, feel, or desire. That doesn't mean people are automatically monsters if they fail to keep themselves in check. People fail, including me.

For myself, I find it helpful to keep in mind the harm I might inadvertantly do to a boy if I give in to the temptations to be sexual with him. But God works differently with different people. Each of us has to find (with the help of the Holdy Spirit) what works best for them in their own lives.

Dakota