Hey Thanks Dakota,

This whole thread has been very stimulating.

I have a lot of respect for your desire to see no boy harmed by your sexual desire and your wanting to encourage other BLs to follow that vision.

Thanks for sticking with it and letting your views be so challenged, I appreiate your bravery there.

I will make one more comment winding up my end of it.
In regards to the monster thing: I think it's just too easy to have erotic encounters with boys. They want them, they initiate them and sometimes a BL can be in a situation where he just didn't say no and went further than he ought to have. I think such a BL needs to know that he hasn't necessarily destroyed the boy's life; that a trangression into what is indeed sinful, is not also unforgivable nor is it the devestating, trauma causing, life destroying action of a preditor.
Every boylover who believes that sexing with boys is wrong will always try and NOT sex them. However, temptation, desire and oppertunity happen. We all sin. We all come short of how we want to live.
I'm not justifying anything here. I'm not encouraging nor endorsing a lax attitude. Sexual immorality is to be FLED from (says the Scripture), but I'm sure there are many BLs who have had encounters and I think they need to know that they are not monsters.

I also think this is relevant for BLs who are feeling strong desires to go sexing a boy. Who feel week and wonder if they will be able to resist. If such a BL believes that IF he acted on his desire that it would make him a monster, I think it would be more of a hinderance to his resistance than a help. In my opinion, BL who accepts what he is as a generally neutral or positive thing will be more relaxed and clear minded and in a much more stable place to wrestle with issues of self-control. Supression leads to eventual outbursts is what my counsellors have told me. Simmilarly indulgence leads to temptation and coveteousness. The healthy path is a balance in between.

Blessings
Cat.