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Posted by Mordecai on 2016-02-16 03:13:27, Tuesday
In reply to "Destructive" thought patterns posted by Confidential on 2016-02-13 17:30:58, Saturday

Most anime fans grow out of such childish thinking by the time they finish high school since they realize that in the real world nobody cares if that's your hobby. At worst, being an anime fan invites people to ask you questions about what's coming up in the next Marvel movies (which you may or may not know, depending on whether your fandom is strictly anime or extends to western comics as well).

That's part of the point I was making. Such destructive thought patterns may be understandable for someone just starting to come to terms with their sexuality (switching back to the original topic now), but you're supposed to grow out of that. If you haven't grown out of that through the process of self acceptance after a few years, you might be "stuck". That's not normal. That's not part of the normal bl experience. Healthy BLs aren't stuck in such destructive thought patterns. They may have had them in the past (although some never do), but they overcome them, they don't get stuck there for ever. It's incorrect to say "we believe that we have a highly conditional acceptance". Many of us don't. Many of us overcame such destructive (and incorrect) thinking years ago, or never had such ways of thinking to begin with.

Now, I'm not saying you should come out to anyone. I am adamantly against coming out to anyone other than under some exceedingly rare circumstances. But it's not because of some distorted thinking that makes me believe "if they only knew they would reject me". It's because I probably can't successfully share the whole truth with them due to so many cultural misconceptions they will have about what that all means. But see, it's those cultural misconceptions that they would be rejecting, not the real me. They would never be able to understand the real me.

The fact of the matter is that if you have real friends and those friends knew THE WHOLE truth of who you are, they would accept you. Because if they knew THE WHOLE truth, they would know more than just the fact you are a pedophile. They would know: that you are a good person, that you strive to live an upright life, that you've sacrificed your sexuality in order to strive to meet God's ideals, that you genuinely care about children and do not view them as sexual objects but rather delight in seeing them happy, etc... Most Christians would unconditionally accept your friendship if they knew THE WHOLE truth. It's only if they knew part of the truth and fell for the cultural misconceptions that come with that half-truth that they would reject you; not because they reject the real you, but because they reject the caricature of you that those misconceptions about pedophilia caused them to see instead of seeing the real you.

To make matters worse, Eldad's post called such destructive thought patterns "a thought we can't escape". That's just bologne. Yes, we can escape it. We can live happy lives. We don't have to wait for heaven.

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