Wrong again! I have had ample opportunity to have sex with a boy, a few boys made the advances (I was a little younger) and said they would never tell anyone and I know for sure they would not have. I never was even romantic in any way with them. But I said no not because of the "chaos that follows" but because of my own beliefs. Not ALL boylovers just want to get in their pants, I know that for a fact. You can not just put a label on it and apply it to everyone. But you are probably not going to change your mind about it because it sounds like you have made your mind up and feel that it is just that way, although it's not at all true!!!