Yes I have been over to boychat.

I would say that Boychat does represent a wider spectrum of BLs than cblf. That is simply because cblf is geared towards a certain kind of BL, Christians. It would be like having a BL board for tall people or rich people or whatever, there would most likely be less people and those people would have at least one more thing in common than the people at a site meant for all BLs.

Are the pedophiles at BC more representative of pedophiles in general (I assume that is what you mean by normal)? Yes, like I said there are more of a variety of pedophiles there than here. In my opinion 'most' of the posts at BC are ok but that's my opinion and you know the saying about those. I suppose some of them would define harm differently than some people here.

"i sure wouldn't trust any of them even an ounce as much as i trusted my AF"

Well yea he's your AF and they aren't. You've known him for years and don't know any of them, that makes sense.

"i guess it comes down to where a pedo draws the line between right and wrong
do most pedos have a "measure" or a "standard" to go by?
and does that standard stay firm in place
or does it change depending on which way the wind happens to blow from day to day?"

Pedophiles are people. Now you say it a few times. Say it again....ok one more time. Pedophiles run the ENTIRE gamut of definitions of morality. Some are horrible malicious people and some are great people who would never hurt anyone. I suspect most fall somewhere in between like most people. Most of your questions I can simply answer: some do and some don't like other PEOPLE.

Godspell