I'm a little skeptical about this "abuse" you speak of. While I believe it's possible for a 13 yo to abuse an 11 yo, I think it's more likely it was mutual experimentation. There are a few things you need to ask yourself. Did he force you to do anything? Was he in any kind of position of power, such as a babysitter? Did you feel you owed it to him to do what he wanted, maybe because you wanted him to like you or be your friend? And most importantly, did you want to do it? Answer those questions honestly and you will know better whether or not you were abused.

It's become quite popular these days for people to play the victim. Some people like it because they think it absolved them of responsibilty and frees them from guilt. The problem with that is by not taking responsibilty for one's actions, one is throwing away a powerful tool for solving the problem: the power inside yourself. If someone else did something to you, then you had no control and you have no power to help yourself now. But if you acknowledge that you had something to do with it, you can look inside yourself for the answers to your problem. Of course it's easier to blame someone else. But it's not very helpful.

As for the friend you havwe a problem with, it might be necessary to stay away from him if being with him causes you to sin. But please don't put all the blame on him. Like they say, it takes two to tango. But if you can't resist temptation when you're around him, then by all means, don't hang around him.

But let me caution you once again. PLEASE don't play the victim. If you start playing the victim at your age, you will be a victim the rest of your life. I had a sister who was like that. It was sad to see, snd she had a very unhappy life.

Dakota