Christian BoyLove Forum #64838
I have to disagree with your view of church as a place where there is no provision for real fellowship or sharing what is really going on in our lives. This may have been true a decade or two ago, but things have come a long way since. Thanks partly to the rise of the cell church movement, it is very difficult to find a good modern or post-modern church that does not have a well developed small group/cell group/life group component. In a lot of these churches there is a great deal of fellowship and chance to be real with others.
I don't think the church fails at providing that fellowship. I think where they fail is in how they deal with those who are facing temptations or trials far outside of their own comfort zones. While there is no doubt you would find a great deal of support and opportunity for openness and true christian fellowship if you reveal to your life group that you struggle with alcoholism, drug abuse, or marital unfaithfulness, I don't believe admitting that you desire sex with children would have positive results. Not because they would abandon you, reject you, or fail to let you be real, but because they are grossly uninformed and unprepared to deal with the issue. They are likely to make grave mistakes based on a poor understading of your issue.
So, while I agree with you that such honesty is not there for most us, I have to disagree with you on the cause. I think the modern and post-modern church are doing an excellent job of building community. But ultimately, those communities still rely on people and people tend to be less than perfect.