Christian BoyLove Forum #63862
1. I am commanded to love my neighbour as myself.
That is actually the second greatest commandment. The first greatest commandment (see Matt 22:37-40) is to love God with all of your heart, mind, and soul. Notice that the greatest commandment doesn't hinge only on feelings (those things related to the heart or soul), but also on intellect. You are to love your God not only by feeling love for him and expressing it through praise, worship, and prayer, but also by studying, analyzing, and understanding his teachings, his word, and his commandments.
To ignore God's will, even as an act of love towards a neighbor, violates the one commandment greater than the one you cited; the commandment to love your God with all your heart, mind, and soul.
2. I have a sexuality that is oriented towards my own sex. It would not be loving for me to marry a member of the opposite sex if she wanted anything resembling a normal relationship.
No one has claimed it would be. You're attacking a straw man on this one.
3. I am very well disposed to love someone of my own sex to whom I am attracted and to marry that person.
Sure, and I am well disposed to use my talents and abilities to become wealthy, amass a fortune and make my career the focus of my life; but is that what God wants? What God wants for me is far more important than what I want for myself. I am disposed to do many things that may seem good or may truly be good, but that are not in line with what God wants for my life.
4. Nothing in scripture contradicts this. There are some very understandable scriptures about married or otherwise heterosexual men who abandon their wives (Romans) or their marital beds (Leviticus) to have opportunistic bisexual sex with members of their own sex. But I am not proposing 'rough trade,' as this is called. I am proposing a constructive loving relationship.
Your interpretation of what the scriptures have to say on this issue is what it all boils down to. Ultimately, the above is the only thing that really matters.
5. I recognize that the love my partner and I share is in every way salutary, good, constructive, and peaceful. It's the same kind of love heterosexual couples share. If this love is not the sort of love Christ was talking about, then the distinction is completely imperceptible.
Christ was not talking about love towards a spouse. He was talking about how you should feel about and treat all people. Unless you are arguing that the love you feel for your partner is no different from the love you feel for your neighbors, church members, and coworkers, you aren't really talking about the kind of love Christ spoke about.
To divide this marital love up into two categories, mysteriously unapproved and mysteriously approved, is too far-fetched to consider.
To believe that a man was put to death and then rose from the dead in order to save you from having to pay the price for all you have done wrong is far-fetched. To believe that a man pointed a staff at the red sea and it parted long enough for an entire nation to cross is far fetched. To believe a man walked the Earth miraculously giving sight to the blind, healing the crippled and resurrecting people from the dead is far-fetched. Why not discount every far-fetched idea in the bible? Asked in a different way: why discount only that far-fetched idea?
Eldad is right. This shouldn't be about feelings and emotions. It shouldn't be about what makes you or other people feel happier or more comfortable. It shouldn't be about what causes the least amount of strife. It should be about what the truth is. The truth is independent of how you feel.
There are strong arguments on both sides regarding what the bible truly says about homosexuality. Those arguments, both for and against, have a lot of merit and deserve to be discussed. That is where the truth will ultimately be found, not in your feelings and emotions nor in cost-benefit analyses about what makes people feel happiest or most comfortable or what the benefits of being more accepting of others are.