For the record, I was the one who initially responded to your email using the webmaster account.

I called you on your misconceptions and you backed off them, and I was going to leave well enough alone. But now you are right back to defending your misconceptions. Having been on this forum for over a decade as a general member and several years as a webmaster, I can unequivocally state that you are mistaken about what you thought was quite clear. Unless you stretch the definition of "some" so that you are talking about a tiny minority (probably composed of no more than one or two current members), you are totally wrong and observed incorrectly.

I'm sorry that I'm about to come off as mean now. I know what you meant was good and I appreciate the spirit of forgiveness with which you said it. However, the fact is that coming to this board to tell us you forgive us for what some pervert did to you makes about as much sense as a woman going to a forum for straight men to tell them she forgives them for her rape. Chances are you have run into plenty of boylovers in your life and the person who abused you was not one of them. The boylovers in your childhood are likely to have been that favorite teacher who inspired you, that scout leader who was always ready to listen and lend you a helping a hand, the sunday school teacher you always looked up to, or that favorite uncle to whom you owe so much. You are comparing us to the wrong person from your past.