Hi Cat,

You know in my situation the idea of divorce is always looming over our heads. I am still trying my best to make things work out but I do not know and could not say for sure at this point that it will never happen. I want so much for things to work out I love her so very much. She is not just my wife but also my best friend. When she gets mad she says to me you are not the man that I thought that I married and that is simply not true and cuts so so deep. I know I am the man that she married I have not changed the only thing that has is her perception of me.

When you said,

"I have asked her to accept me as I am, it is what I long for most truly and deeply. She stated in no uncertain terms that she is simply unwilling to do that. From her position it's either change or divorce. At the end I feel sorry for her. I'm a pretty good husband. I love her more than anyone else in her world and she's willing to lose that because of what I can't offer her. It's just so sad."

I can really relate to that, my wife says she accepts me for who I am but if she truly did she would not make such a statement (among others) to me that hurts so bad. I can honestly say I love and accept her for who she is no matter what no strings attached and no comments like that which I know would hurt her. You are right it is just so sad. I am not ready to give up and am going to do all I can and hope and pray that she will also. But I do know and you are right that fortunately God is merciful and will be no matter how things work out.

I have been praying for you and your wife EVERY DAY and will continue to do so. But no matter the outcome I know that the Lord will be there to walk you through whatever you have to go through. I know are situations are not exactly the same but I can say I know how you feel and I know how much it hurts. I hate seeing you having to go through this and pray that God will give you peace in your heart and just show you His love and mercy while you are working out the details.

God Bless You Cat

With Love In Christ,

Blaze