Robert give you practical advice. Is easy! Give wife to yf as present. Keep toy for self. All problems solved.

Hm, I suppose such thoughts may not be appropriate here against this contemplative blue background with airborne crosses.

Hiding stuff from a spouse is really only kosher if it's something she's made it plain that she can live with but would prefer not to know about.

Since your wife knows your YF is your YF, and since she doesn't support your need to socialize with a YF, the present can only be hidden or inflammatory. Alas, no matter how chaste and above-board you are with the boy, her jealousy knows all and imagines much.

You're so conscientious that, really, she ought to just celebrate that you're generous to a young person at no discernible cost to her.

Given where things are between you right now, I suppose there's not much point letting her jealousy extend itself into interrupting your generosity and kindness.

Perhaps she'll be magnanimous and make it a present from both of you. If not, it's her loss.

Your generosity and love are not wrong. Whatever the underlying psychology may be, being kind to a young person in a socially unexceptional way can't be construed as adultery.

I do know another guy who took on a YF relationship at one point, and his spouse just decided to outdo him in kindness to the kid. Not out of jealousy, but just out of deciding to share the interest in a fine human being. They both became like a second family for the boy and all was happiness.

Ironically, you'd be very happy to give her the gift of that same happiness.