Sorry to jump into this late, but I was frustrated at not being able to get "The Chosen" up on my screen. THANKS HEREBY AWARDED TO ELDAD!!!! This is PRECISELY the kind of discussion that BL's (not just cblf, but ALL of on-line and off-line BL-dom!) need to be having. TOO OFTEN, there is simply the self-righteous presentation of:

"Well, here's MY opinion, and /I/ certainly like what I'm doing; here's the boy's opinion (which has been censored by my power and overwritten by my unacknowledged scripts) and /he/ doesn't seem to be objecting....what "third opinion," from some outsider, could possible make any difference?"

But art has a power to REFLECT images back to abusers that shatter their complacent self-images. There is a very distinct and recognizable process in which the abuser replicates his abuse script on his "target-boy:" "I could never talk about how I felt about being abused, and now YOU can never talk about how you feel about being abused."

Films like this make the PARTIALITY of the abuser narrative harder and harder to maintain: "I totally enjoyed what happened to me when I was a boy, even though I had no control over it, and now YOU TOO will totally enjoy what I do to you, whether you want to or not." I call this PARTIAL, because the "pleasure" is only a small PART of the story. Looking at the big picture, the moments of "pleasure" only have their meaning in the creation of large, imprisoning "shame-structures."


---Didaskalos


PS: It's been a long time coming, but I finally did an "intervention" on my mother, laying out the incestuous dynamics of our family, and what effect her habit of "La-de-da" boundary-violations was having on me and the rest of the family.