Except that if he is truly not a boylover and simply hasn't figured out his sexual identity yet, then to accept the term boylover would be to live in denial of his true self.

Like I said, he wouldn't be the first person that has happened to here. Is the person I know living in denial now? Not at all. He was in denial back then and everything makes sense and feels right now that he has realized he was never a bl and has accepted his true self as a gay man.