"I dont know about the rest of you but I have great difficulties acting mature and and still have a lot of the same mentality and an intrests in activities as I did during my youth such as skating, and playing video games all day and just having a fun time without paying attention to the boring adult world. I couldnt grow up if my life depended on it and I actualy literally feel like I am a kid trapped in an adults body in every sense, so maybe I have deeper pschological issues behind all this which Im not sure if it is the case with other BL's ?"

I have myself struggled with this particular issue and I've spoken to other BLs who have also. Gosh I wish I was 11!

For myself I have learned that there are parts of being a boy I want to hold onto but that doesn't have to stop me from becoming a mature, responsible adult and having adult friends.

I can be a grown up when I need to be and play like a kid when I want to. The two things are not mutually exclusive. I've found great joy in having adult friends... but most of them don't get the "kid" side of me... for that I turn to my kid friends and we have a ball together.

Emotionally I've learned to get my emotional needs and my support from my adult connections... kids just aren't up to "being there" for an adult. And I did have to go to counselling to deal with some of my emotional "stuckness" so that I could mature in areas where responsible functioning required it. For instance... being scared of adults to the point of not being able to approach them to ask for directions when I was lost... or hiding behind the curtains when I went to a friend's place for dinner (gosh that was years ago now).

None of the "bagage" I dealt with in counselling and none of the "maturing" I've done in recent years has changed my interest in boys, my desire to play with them, or to be one of them... and generally I'm happy about that.

Blessings
Cat.