I guess I make no sense to you and that's fair enough but I'll just add one thing. You say 'Shouldn't we love each other anyway?' but the fact is we don't so where does that leave us?
Then you say 'Or do some people just need to be scared into loving people because they're complete wankers?'
Perhaps, thinking about it, religion can be an attempt to replace love that's missing with something easier and more convenient?
just a thought. Good luck in your quest Aionios. Where did you get that name from btw?