Fantasy is a marvelous gift. God gave us the ability to visit the imagin-nation anytime we desire. In our minds we have the ability to go anywhere we want, do anything we want, with anyone we want, and the fantasy always plays out exactly the way we want it to. But is it wrong, or dirty or sinful to dwell on imaginings that provide us with erotic pleasures that lead to masturbation and orgasm? I don't think so. Do our fantasies hurt anyone? Are we forcing our thoughts and imaginings on someone else? No. They are thoughts; private and personal thoughts that occupy the recesses of our mind. Fantasies are mini vacations we give to ourselves.

Brother, you are freely exercising your mind and have the liberty and freedom in Christ to do so. The Lord of Glory came down to set us free from the bonds of fear, doubt, confusion and lies. Would it be normal for you to have sexual fantasies of adult women? Of course not. You are a boylover. Therefore, it is normal for you to imagine the object of your desire, and focus on him while you pleasure yourself. Where in the rule book does it say that boylovers should be guilt ridden about sensual, romantic, erotic fantasies of boys? We are naturally attracted to them, so why the guilt and shame over imagining yourself with the object of your desire? It is normal and natural for boylovers to fantasize about boys (real or imagined) and enjoy the arousing, erotic scenario that unfolds as they let their vivid imaginations run free.

It is my opinion that masturbation only becomes a problem if you are doing it so often that you hurt yourself (bruising or making yourself irritated) and/or you no longer desire a healthy sexual relationship with someone you love. In other words, it replaces the sexual act. Over and above enjoying your favorite fantasies, if you are preoccupied with masturbation and or the material that generally goes along with it then I would say you have an issue to deal with. Otherwise, you are probably like every other healthy Christian man who is concerned that what you do is OK with God. God created our bodies and He said that everything He created was "very good". Your penis was designed and fashioned to provide sexual pleasure whether solo or with a partner. There is nothing wrong with that. God is not embarrassed or ashamed, nor does He look away, when we pleasure ourselves to orgasm.

Most of us are taught that masturbation is sinful or wrong, and many believe that the Bible actually forbids masturbation. That is simply not true; masturbation is not even mentioned in the Bible. And when we consider the facts, it becomes clear that masturbation is not a sin, but rather a blessing from God that enables us to fully enjoy our bodies.

You feel guilty, shameful, or dirty after you masturbate, and so you conclude that masturbation must be wrong, unseemly in the Lord’s eyes, and therefore you should repent. I want you to know that love and liberty has triumphed over guilt and shame. Most of us have been taught, often by misguided religious authorities, that our bodies are bad and anything relating to physical pleasure is sinful. It is a lesson that should be rejected. God created our bodies, as well as our capacity for sexual pleasure and orgasm. Masturbation is a normal and healthy release of sexual energy.

The Scripture tells us that our bodies are the temples of the Holy Spirit, and that everything that we do should glorify the Lord. While masturbation is not a sin, we must masturbate in a way that is respectful to our bodies, and respectful to God. Masturbation is a gift that we should not abuse. This means we should not masturbate to excess, or to the point where we injure ourselves. If you are masturbating until you are exhausted, or until your genitals are raw or bleeding, that is excessive and harmful. If you masturbate compulsively to the point that it interferes with your work or your relationships with friends, family, or your walk with God, that is a problem. Of course, this is not to say that masturbation in itself is wrong.

Medical research shows that having regular orgasms releases physical tension and emotional stress, releases endorphins, and improves circulation. Regular ejaculations also decreases the risk of prostate cancer. Masturbation allows us to enjoy these benefits whether or not we have a sexual partner.

Most importantly, masturbation is a way for us to celebrate our God-given sexuality. Sexual pleasure and orgasm are blessings from the Lord, and masturbation is one way we can experience them. Our bodies and our sexual organs were made to feel good; if we deny ourselves sexual pleasure, we are refusing one of God’s gifts.

If we masturbate with shame and feelings of sinfulness, we are besmirching God’s blessing. Instead, we should celebrate our sexual nature, rejoicing in the pleasure and satisfaction that it can bring us. God’s birthright to us is joy, happiness, and health, and there are few moments more joyous than the moment of orgasm. Therefore, every time we fantasize and masturbate to orgasm, we should say a prayer of gratitude, thanking the Lord for our body, for sexual pleasure, for our vivid imaginings and for masturbation as a means of experiencing the bliss of orgasm.