I am not an expert but it looks to me like you may have aspergers syndrome. A person with Aspergers syndrome basically finds it significantly harder to comprehend social cues and norms. Aspergers can be very slight so it does not interfere in a person's life or it can be very detrimental. My knowledge of it is from knowing a few people with it and a very little bit of research so I recommend you do your own research, I could be completely wrong or right. If you find that you are just knowing more about it can help and open the door to other options to help if you decide to go in that direction.

"I also feel awkward because I do love her little boy and the guilt over it gets magnified in front of her. The reason I feel guilty is that that love is coming from a pedophile, not from a family member, or anybody who's supposed to love him."

You do not need to feel any guilt for loving your yf. Any. Ever. Any.
There is no limit on 'who is supposed to love another person' whether it is romantic or any other kind. The saying 'It takes a village to raise a child' is true whether or the child has a pair of loving parents. I remember several adults in my life who were positive influences in my life who were not related to me and it does not matter to me if they were attracted to me at the time or not. In the same way I know that I and other BLs can make positive differences in boy's lives whether or not we are sexually attracted to them. This is a great thing and something you should be glad about and not something you should feel guilt over.

"So my questions are: How do I improve me interactions with her...as in what the heck do I talk about or do?"

I don't know either of you very well so here are a series of ideas, use any that make sense and throw out any that don't. Find something you two share in common and talk with her about that. Find something that she knows about that you know little about which you want to learn about, she will probably want to teach you about it. Talk about something in the news that most people would know about, things like that can start trivial then get to what someone really believes about various things that are important to them. Invite her and her family to do something with you. That is all I can think of for now.

"And how should I bring up the conversation about wanting to correspond with her kid via mail once he's gone?"

hmm not sure on specifics on this. If you have known this boy for a few years and are close to him it should not be too hard. Things to think about you don't have to answer here: does he want to correspond through mail? would he like to correspond via email or the internet? How far will he be, how often will you get to see him? Are you emotionally prepared to know most boys are bad at keeping a correspondence going long-term?

I hope some of this helps.

Godspell




• ( http link ) http://www.aspergers.com/
[Anonymouse]