It's true, people constantly ask about things related to relationships.

If you're not bisexual at all, I'd suggest you could eliminate the hetero ambiguity by telling people you are gay. That would allow the unofficial marriage brokers in your community to focus on more appropriate people. It would also give you plenty of practice in the coming-out process that you could use if you ever were to want to come out as a boylover.

For that last, it would be good if you were either very well networked in the BL world and well read on the history and politics of organized pedophilia, or if you were involved in a Christian church that was very determined to provide a place of redemption for all sinners, even (y)our kind. (A friend of mine who is convicted sex offender [he touched a sleeping boy you-know-where and then felt obliged to confess it though the boy didn't wake up] belongs to such a church and they all are committed to helping him win his struggle against boy lust.)

In coming out in the community you will need to be well mobilized for social war and prepared to have your computer investigated after a scary, rough nighttime home raid and so on. Also any job involving the public in any way is in jeopardy. However, I am not going to advise you not to come out, because our society includes many thousands of veterans of such social warfare, and even today if gay men move into the wrong area, they may go through the whole social bullying process (except the part involving bully police).

I experienced a certain amount of this in early gay lib, with harassing phone calls all night long and so on. I have to say, I am very keen on this sort of righteous battle and only abstain now because my boyfriend wouldn't understand at all.

In coming out in a supportive church, the members may protect you from the bile of the community by keeping the info about you to themselves, as long as you clearly are working hard to renounce any affinity to sexually active boylove. But there's always a chance someone might get paranoid and blab, especially these days when the Catholic church is being roasted for under-publicizing child-abusing priests.

Most people I know who have come out publicly as BL are intelligent, politically naive, idealistic people in the 18-19 (-22) age range, and they have eventually emerged in one piece, but quite shocked about all the police and other fooferaw about the mere fact of their sexual orientation. Of course, all the police can do is look for child porn and then when they don't find any, it's generally game over for them(though the possibility of a policeman planting some porn can never be completely ruled out; such things were not uncommonly done with drugs.. so try to make sure all the legalities regarding searches are being properly observed and make detailed notes as soon as you can if some impropriety occurs. Email them to yourself and your lawyer to get a time stamp.).

One very vocal 18 yo friend who became the object of much community concern, despite being a sexual virgin, found that the police eventually became helpful, in a way. Every time a parent called them to complain that this person was living in the community or had gone near their child, the police would tell them to get lost and call back when they had something of legal significance to say. His situation is now so live-and-let-live that he openly has a YF.