yes, increasing your AoA is a viable alternative, a kind of a trade-off. the younger they are the less they can understand the complex feeling of attraction and all the burden that comes with it. You can pretend, however, that they understand and be happy with it and that is a kind of a trade-off too ;-)

but still, I believe (or at least i want to believe) that you can find some adult who you'll be able to more or less love (though not as passionate as boys)

for me, i don't think i could like any older guys (older than 15/16) at least for now, but as for women goes, i'm almost "normal" (though i can't remember the last time I sexually fantasized about one).