Christian BoyLove Forum #66756
a person can learn skills to rearrange & re-prioritize daily thought patterns, which essentially reprograms their behavior. Perhaps the default mode is always thoughts and attraction toward children.
However, you can adjust to whatever level of involvement you choose. The porn addict can detox and turn away from temptation.
So, when you see a child you don't automatically begin imagining it naked right from the start, you can stop that and put the usual thoughts and feelings aside for later. If you daydream about kids 12 times per day, and then you get it down to once per day, yes that is healed.
That is as healed as it gets.
Having some passing thoughts of whatever, doesn't matter.
The world is too big to worry about both Deeds and Thoughts. We have enough to worry about with people making terrible wrong actions. Whatever thoughts people are having doesn't even measure on the scale of badness or wrongness yet.
Of course people who are not pedophiles have such thoughts all the time, it's perfectly normal fact of life. Like the cops who's job it is to look at vile pics or movies. Or anyone who is interested in child development or human sexuality, or parenting.
I'm going through a tough time right now because my niece is becoming a young woman, and all she thinks about is boys and sexy stuff. I don't want to think of it, but I have to.
I've worked at chatrooms for years disguised as a boy or girl or man or woman. Guys who aren't pedos are everybit as gross and disgusting as child molesters so.... pointing fingers at pedos usually just means the person is obsessed with pedophilia their own selves.