Christian BoyLove Forum #64290
If it helps, I can offer my experience. Feel free to read on.
I feel like my current yf was kind of a mixture of both. Part of it was just me going on with my daily life (coaching a boy's sports team). I was wanting a yf desperately, of course, but couldn't even see it in the near future.
Something was there, though, with him, and we built a closer bond than I had with most of the other boys in recent years. For instance, I have a strong no-touch rule with boys I coach, even to congratulate him. But he was jumping on me and wanting to horseplay early on, and so we just clicked. I think a turning moment there was one time where he got to use something I'd taught him specifically in a game and score through it. The look on his face then was priceless.
That been said, it's true that I had to step out of my comfort zone to push the envelope and see him more than just practices/games.
So while part of me says to let it happen, and I agree with that, another part says that it's not really wrong to want to plan for something, or to put a plan into action. Besides, only waiting on something seems to me like an example a wise friend told me recently - something about a man drowning because he waited on God to save him.
I'm not sure I agree with the whole 'vibe' thing... But that's just me; and Blackstone has a point. If you don't think you're ready for a relationship like that, it's a huge possibility, and it may be best to wait until you are.