You really should not take everything in your life to be part of some epic story slash conspiracy. Your life has not been designed around you, things just happen and I am sure God would want you to deal with them in whatever way you could, whatever it is. I figured I would let you know that since, that is what seems to be the very thing that's troubling you.

I also believe that it is God's responsibility to make sure people go to the right place when they die.

If free will is such a precious gift, what use is there for boyfishing, as if you can change it?