What I'm suggesting is that your present situation sounds unstable, and the danger is that you convince yourself that it's ok to go that bit further and then that bit further until you say or do something that causes an explosion and your friendship with your YF is ruined for ever. Which is why you need other friendships so that it isn't the only bright light in your life. And it might spill over into the organisation because they hear you acted 'inappropriately'. I'd encourage you to check out their 'child protection' policies so that you don't violate the rules by accident... The transition from official leader to family friend is mined with potential disasters these days