If your 'hot best friend' is your own age then you are in a much better place than if he is significantly younger than you. We BLs all need, IMHO, to focus our thoughts at the top of our Age of Attraction range - because that way we are likely to learn to appreciate the older and become less likely be caught in a messy (emotionally - not necessarily sexually) relationship. Of course reality is more complex - circumstances may mean we end up with contact with a younger boy. But in terms of aim - and especially in terms of fantasy - we need to try and go for older.