I've never married, so my advice isn't from experience. But from what I have seen and read, very few wives will be able to handle this truth. They certainly wouldn't understand it. Personally, I AM attracted to women as well as boys. So I had always assumed I would someday get married. I just never found the right woman. But I had decided that if I were ever to get married, I wouldn't reveal my bl to her. I felt it would be selfish of me to do so. I would be placing a burden on her that she didn't need to have, and I couldn't see any way the knowledge would do anything but hurt her.

However, I would also have to guard against her finding out by accident. Of course I would never do anything inappropriate with a child (if you have doubts in this area, you shouldn't get married), but I would also have to keep any bl related material off my computer where she might find it accidentally. This means not only no pictures, regardless of how legal they may be, but also no bookmarks to bl sites like this one. Some would call this living a lie. I call it keeping an inappropriate attraction under control.

Dakota