I was hoping someone else would join in at this point to help me resist the temptation to rant at length about teenagers with no idea about real life. I shall try and resist, but I think I do need to respond...

Given that you are to at least some extent a BL, to become publicly labelled as such is a catastrophe because it cuts you off from easy appropriate contact with boys; you will be banned from all organised activity with young people, you will be prevented from having unsupervised social contact etc etc. This is not a trivial loss if you are serious about making a positive impact with your life in the boys whom you will come to love.

Please tell me you get the point and I don't need to jump up and down any more about it...