"Confusion is temporary, orientation is permanent. Someone who is confused will not ever find peace while living a life contrary to his sexual orientation. A relationship of the wrong kind will simply never fill his needs."

I see some pretty significant presuppositions in this statment that I want to challenge you about Blackstone.

a). That someone does need to live a life in harmony with his sexual orientation and so that means living in a relationship with someone he's attracted to or no one at all.

b). That someone cannot find peace being in a sexual relationship with someone he's not sexually attracted to.

c). That a relationship with someone outside of your sexual attraction will not be able to fill your personal needs.

Please tell me if these presuppostions are correct.
If they are then it appears that in your view sexual attraction is primary in sexual relationships... so let me ask:

Can someone live in harmony with their sexual orientation (ie: accept what they are) and yet still choose to live a life outside of that quite willingly and happily? EG: Can I accept that I'm not attracted to a woman and still be happily married to one and even engage sexually with her? Is there enough substance to a marriage outside of attraction to make it worthwile if attraction is absent?

Is it further possible that despite my longings for boy focused sexual relationships I may submit those desires willingly before God in obedience to His command not to go that way AND so willingly submitted, find peace in the life that I choose... either marriage to a woman or singleness?

Lastly, is it true that our personal needs for intimacy and sex can ONLY be fulfilled by someone to whom we are attracted? Is it possible that a relationship with someone to whom we are not attracted could actually be need fulfilling despite the fact that sexual attraction is low to completely missing. In other words could our sexual needs be more likely fulfilled by companionship and intimacy with a woman than by the thrills of sexual excitment and the buzz we get from the emotional/psychological connectedness we feel with boys (or whomever we are attrated to)?

I look forward to your thoughts
Blessings
Cat.