Hi RF,

I definitely think father issues can play a role in developing a BL identity. Though my father was around when I was a child, we never seemed to have anything in common. I was into movies, electronics, and computers; he was into gardening and outdoor things -- and neither of us made an effort to bridge the gap. Consequently, we hardly spent any time together. I always used to hang out with my mom, because she was very loving an supportive. My dad, on the other hand -- I never felt that I measured up to his standards. It always seemed like I was a disappointment to him.

Though I believe there were other factors, I am pretty sure my relationship with my father played a role in the formation of my BL attractions.

Another thought on this issue: I don't think it's a coincidence that some of my most vivid childhood memories are the one or two times my dad took me to see a movie -- just me and him. These events stand out in my mind above almost any others.

A side note: As an adult my relationship with my dad is vastly improved. We get along really well. In addition, he recently became a Christian (in the last 5 years or so), and has been growing dramatically in his faith. It's great to see!

Blessings,
Rainboy