My experience was the exact opposite - it was all about sex and nothing to do with relationship.

But this also tweaks my curiosity - how come you ended up as a BL given this scenario? Did your new partner just keep getting younger? Was that deliberate or accidental? When did you come to realise that there was an ISSUE!?

That was my experience; the sex stopped but a significant other emerged who was a bit younger than me, though physiologically much younger. Then another one came along that bit younger than me - but actually the same age.... When he was 9 and I was 18 I twigged there was a problem - though a bit later at college I got very close to guys only a bit younger than me again.