Also, keep in mind that bl relationships have a tendency to form a spiderweb of friendships. It is very likely and in fact, nearly guaranteed that someone here shares a friend with another member. In some cases, they know about it and in some, they do not. How do you know that the same people aren't being counted over and over again? Should everyone start making sure they use the person's name so that doesn't happen? But then that would be an invasion of the persons privacy and a breach of their trust. The end result of continuing to count all of these people from beyond the forum is that the more people from cblf a person knows, the more times they can be counted; ironically, that makes people who don't frequent this forum count more than our actual members, our members get counted only one time and non-members can be counted 3 or 4 times depending on how many people they know.

I really think you need to completely discard all of the extras and stick with just the people here. Your sample isn't getting bigger and better by accepting more people, it's getting less reliable and more problematic.