You have nothing to feel guilty about. What society calls "grooming" is just what a true boylover does because he loves the boy. It's true that predators may do some of the same things for the express purpose of taking advantage of the boy at a later time, but if your motives are pure, then don't let society lay a guilt trip on you.

I think what all us boylovers have to be cautious about is that even though our motives may be pure and our love may be true, we have to be on guard against letting our love slip into the inappropriate physical kind. (Of course, I'm not talking about stuff like hugs here.) That's why I think these interviews are a valuable tool for us, so we don't start believing our fantasies.

And showing your YF love by spending time with him and spending money on him (within reason) is more than normal. It's Godly. And as long as it remains Godly, that's how your YF will look at it when he gets older. He'll look back on it with fond memories.

And I'm glad you told him you love him. :)

Dakota