My understanding is that it is a disability like any other which you need to learn to deal with in the same way as the wheel chair user has to. To pretend you don't have the disability will get you nowhere and is very psychologically damaging, which is why your shrink will be discouraging it. But that doesn't give you an excuse to start looking for a gay relationship - anymore than every straight guy has the right to a sexual partner. Life is hard - it's something to do with the fall!