Dear AAAAAAA

Thankyou for your honest and polite enquiry.

If you look thru some of the posts on this board, you will see that indeed many of us ARE both Christians and boylovers. We love both Jesus and boys. Jesus is our LORD and King, and we seek to glorify Him at all times. We have a special love for boys in that we work in every way for them to become strong men, with Jesus as their King too. We try, and urge each other to continue to try, despite our great internal turmoils, NOT to let this love degenerate into lust. That can often be hard work, but then Christian girl- or woman-lovers also (as you could well be aware from your own experience!) have hard work in resisting the temptations they have, to lust after females.

The intro at the top of our forum is quite helpful:

“Most Christian boylovers find themselves in the position of having no one to turn to who shares their faith as well as their sexual feelings. This board attempts to fill that gap by providing a friendly, safe place where we can be honest about our feelings and struggles with sexuality and faith, without fear of destructive criticism or harassment. This is a place for mutual encouragement, support, and advice, as we seek to deal with our sexuality and society's reaction to it in responsible and healthy ways, to live out our lives with integrity, and to express our faith in a way that honors God and demonstrates the love of Jesus Christ to all people.”

CBLF FAQs also state that:

“Christian Boylove Forum participants believe that a distinction must be made between feelings of attraction (which are not chosen) and behavior (for which one must be held responsible). We believe that boylovers can control and channel their feelings so that their relationships with boys are beneficial and honor God. We are strictly opposed to any treatment of children which is contrary to the love that God intends us to have for them. This includes the manipulation, coercion and abuse of children.”

We repeatedly emphasize in this forum (unlike others) that any sexual activity with boys is totally unacceptable. We do all we can to support each other in avoiding it. But because we love boys, we want the best for them. That often involves our spending a lot of time with them because we have special gifts in relating to them and nurturing them. Sometimes we are the only men, or the only effectual men, in their often sad and broken lives. We are factory workers, youth leaders, teachers, bus drivers, artists, doctors, politicians . . .

If you would like to read more about whether Christianity and boylove are compatible, have a look at “Not an Oxymoron”

With warm regards from a brother in Christ.

Martin