Welcome to cblf dude!


1. Were any of you sexually abused as children? (I was not, at least not that I know of).

You may have better asked this question "did any of you have early sexual experiences" becuase I bet there are people here who may say yes to that but would not consider themselves to have been abused.
For myself... my sexual adventures began at about 8 years old with a teenaged neighbour. Did he make me a BL... or just discover that I was one? I don't know the answer to that question. Either way I enjoyed it and still "get off" on my memories of it.

2. Any of you that are married, how do you manage your relationships with your wife?

Ha! Have you read many of my posts?? My marriage is falling apart. My advice is: if you aren't sexually attracted to your girlfriend then don't marry her!... it's not fair to either of you. Some BLs like boys and women... if that's you... go, marry, enjoy. Some BLs only like boys but can enjoy sex with women... again if that's you go, marry, enjoy. My wife is [was :(] my best friend in the world, when I confessed to her that I'm just not attracted to her... things got ugly. I can't even force myself to have sex with her now. God have mercy!

3. Do any of you have children, and if so, are there any temptations there? I desperately want my own, but I am afraid of what I have the potential to do.

I have kids. There has been some attraction, but there is a difference between temptation and action. I've been very attracted to my kid's friends over the years but ... I haven't acted on these things. My policy is not to be alone with other people's kids.... its kept me safe over the years. It's worrying being attracted to your kids, though its not the same as attraction to other boys (as in its far weaker) you are in such a position of opertunity. One can but pray that God will help you love them in appropriate ways.

4. Are any of you actively working in a ministry type environment with those with whom you struggle with an attraction to?

I'm not now, but I have done and would easily do so again. I love being around kids and I believe that kids benefit from my company. I know that I won't act on my attractions in any kind of inappropriate way and I always make sure there are other adults around so things stay safe.

Blessings bro
Cat.