Hey bro, a warm and hearty welcome to this special, special brotherhood. You have entered into an atmosphere of understanding, yet gently firm, compassion.
(btw - gr8 nic!)

As to your quest-ions:

1. Yes – aged 4 & 5, and again @ 16

2. Yes – she has known since b4 we were married. We were too enmeshed. She repeatedly forgave me for my unfaithfulness until she learned ‘tough love’ and boundaries. Sadly we are now quite distant and detached though still living together. Haven’t slept together since my suicide attempt in 2000. There is however hope aglow on the horizon . . . God is Good.

3. - 3 kids. 2 boys (24 & 19 now). Never any temptation. Still remember the time aged about 15 when I looked at my then 9-year-old brother with THAT kind of look, and everything inside me screamed NOOOOOO!!!!! and never had another such thought about him again (though he was ever-so-cute) – or about my boys. Their friends, however, were a different matter. If only my insides had screamed the same then, and for all the other boys I continually fell in love with . . .

4. Yes, I am sort of. Not exactly ministry, but often caring for guys I’m struggling with attraction to. At long last – after 30 years of anguish and loathing – there is so much more relief and control, PRAISE GOD – it is only of Him that any of this is at all (finally) possible.

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