Being that the post was so big, I decided to take it piece by piece and respond to things as I encountered them.

There nothing wrong with showing love and affection to a boy -- just like a brother or father would -- but if it becomes romantic, I feel that crosses the line.

Romantic for whom? If it's romantic for you but not for him, then how has that crossed any line?

I believe that homosexuality is inherently wrong, and not part of God's design for our lives.

If it weren't part of his design for your life, why would he have allowed you to be born with it and then refused to take it away when you asked? The only two possibilities are that either it is part of his design for your life, or he is incapable of taking it away.

I don't think there is anything sinful about having homosexual or boylove desires, but what we do with those desires certainly can be sinful.

A moment ago you said it was inherently wrong. So, there isn't a whole lot of internal consistency in your view. Unless you believe things can be wrong but not sinful.

The Bible talks about homosexuality, and seems to paint a very negative view

That is incorrect. The bible never addresses homosexuality. The bible only addresses homosexual acts, not the state of being homosexual.

[Some babies are born horribly disfigured by one or other birth defect, and I don't think any of us would argue that was part of His design for them.

Then plainly put, you think wrong. This is part of God's design. The bible clearly tells us that nothing can happen if God does not allow it to. He allowed these things to happen. Thus, only two conclusions can one come to, either it is part of God's design or he is incapable of fixing it. I believe God can do all things, therefore these things are part of his design.

As for being a cruel God, you are being very short sighted. We live what...70, 80, 90, 100 years max in this world? Compare that to infinity. Millions and millions and millions of years we will spend in the next life. Compared to the amount of time we will spend in the next life, this life is like a drop of water in the entire ocean. If this life was all there was, then you could rightfully say that God is unjust. But there is a lot more to life than the life you are living now, and all of the struggles you will face in this life, be they the result of things you were born with or things that occurred, will in the end have been worth it.


Make sense?

It makes sense, but doing even a modicum of research would prove your theory incorrect, even though it makes sense. Sorry, but having read through one book on child development and then adding anecdotal evidence from a sample composed of only one individual does not in any way lead to a well informed conclusion.

If we are going to have any relationships with a boy, we must use it as an opportunity to affirm and encourage him in his development as a young man, and, hopefully, as a man of God.

I agree with you on this even though I disagree with the way you reached this conclusion.

I have been in the BL community for over 10 years now. In this amount of time, I've met both in person and online dozens of BLs and their YFs. I've encountered BLs who lead celibate lives, and I've encountered those who do not. I've encountered YFs who are sexually involved with their older partner, and those who are not. I've kept up with some of these people for so long that their ex-YFs are now married and have their own family. Never once have I encountered a BL or YF whose younger lover turned gay. In the one instance where the boy was gay, it was obvious from childhood that he had always been this way.

Now, of course, my sample is much too small to draw any solid conclusions from it. But added to the overwhelming amount of scientific evidence showing that sexuality is partly genetic and partly developed in the very earliest years of life (before of any of these YFs ever had a AF), I think it's safe to say that the evidence for your point of view is lacking.