Advice...
Submitted by Sprite on January 28 2001 17:22:14
In reply to can you help me? submitted by smiley on January 28 2001 01:16:49
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Basic advice from me would be to accept that you feel the way you do... No fooling around, or anything more serious should be done without consent from both parties, younger & older... Remember; children CAN consent, they are often not allowed the right, but they have the ability... I suggest that you try to spend a moderate amount of time with people your age or older, because many so-called 'child protection' groups advise parents, etc. to believe that anyone older than their children who wants to spend time with the kids, but not the parents, etc. is a 'kiddy-molester'... Sad, I know... Stupid, even... But such is life... What do you mean by 'your friends believe you need help'? If they just think that in a 'friendly' way, that's good... But, if they feel in anyway disturbed by your activities, you might wish to think about whether they would 'say' anything to others... It should be noted that an 8 year old who has sexual relations with a 6 year old, can be sent to jail in some areas... It's sick, but that is sometimes the reality of the situation. Forgiven talks of being 'out' as gay, or as a BL... I must insist that you use extreme caution in telling(or even thinking of telling) someone that you are either, let alone both... Being know as a minor-attracted adult is far worse than just about anything, even a murderer, in some areas... I live in a red-neck community... It would be a very bad idea for me to let anyone know... It's even very dangerous to say that I'm gay, or something... I want to tell you that sometimes you don't know what you thought you knew about somebody... I always thought of my mother as, more or less, the most accepting & nice person I'd ever met... And I still do, though now I know that I am more so than she... I found out just a year ago, or so, when I friend of mine came-out as gay, that she believes homosexuality to be sinful... She did tell me that if I was/turned-out-to-be, gay, that she would still love me, but she would be disappointed/would not approve. I don't think I could trust her, or anyone else not to freak at the news that I'm a BL... Splash! talks of not giving into sexual urges, or whatever... I take this to mean that he, like many here, believes no good can come from being intimate with a boy... I'd like to point out to you right now, that that is not always the case... I would have been very happy to have had a 'special friend' in his mid to late teens, when I was about 9, or so... If you are motivated by desires of the heart to be with boys, know that you could do a great deal of good... And certain boys may wish to be intimate with you... Remember to respect them at all times... For the record, I'm 19... So, my memories are bit fresher than most around here... I've also not be jaded by the world as much as older and/or less fortunate BLs may have been... If you wish, you may contact me through e-mail for talk/advice... I can offer nothing but my word to you that anything discussed by mail remains private, but you & everyone else have my word that private discussions will be just that; private. Remember that this forum is open for all the world to see.... Sprite. |
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