Blackstone, how can any of us even have a firm grasp on what the terminology means when there is no definite agreed upon definition of Boylover. One group of boylovers may agree on a definition while a different group of boylovers have a much different definition. And just because you are a boylover doesn't mean that your definition is THE definition and that you automatically understand fully what the word means and how it should be used and who can actually be defined as a BL.

Being a BL isn't about actions.

Then what are basing your judgement about Scott's abusers on then? It seems that you are saying they weren't boylovers... but all you know about are their actions. Or am I misunderstanding?