"But anyone here who wants to run over and take those boys' hands apart and tell them they're in sin - you go right ahead."

Hello Boy Cherisher,
Since this is my first direct post in your direction let me just say that I have really appreciated your comments on this board. I find your posts encouraging and a blessing. I feel it's important to mention that as I'm now going to take objection to this line from this current post and I want you to know that my objection is not a reflection of my overall positive feeling about your posts.

It would seem that separating these boys would be a nasty and hurtful thing to do. They are in love and they are happy and they are bravely taking a stand for their love.... all of these things are good.

However, feelings of love and happiness are not necessarily guarentees that one is in a morally sound place before God. If this was a heterosexual couple who were in an adulterous relationship ... they may well be in love and they may well be happy... but if their children were to see daddy holding hands in public with "another woman" how devestating for them.
Now these boys are not betraying another human in their love like the adulterous couple but if (and I say "IF" as I ask you to consider a possibility outside of your own worldview) it is a betrayal of their relationship with God and His demand for a particular kind of holiness, then it has a similar moral impact.

I wouldn't run up to these boys and take their hands apart and cry, "sinners!" That would be a hideous way to handle it. To share my view with these lads would take bucket loads of empathy and compassion and mercy on my part. I'd try and explain things as gently as possible to them. I'd be keen to affirm their feelings and their love whilst discussing what I felt were necessary sexual boundaries. And finally, I'd want to stand by them and be as supportive and affirming as possible as they walk the difficult walk of same gender attracted folk who believe that same gender sexing is unholy.

I imagine that the approach you threw out there is typical enough in practice for you to rightly condemn it. However, it is not the ideal or best apporoach that someone from a conservative position can take and still be loving and caring towards these boys. I guess I'm saying, please don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Blessings
Cat.