I have been thinking a bit about what makes pics and porn and sex with another person in general so compelling.

Why, since we can easily bring ourselves to orgasm, is it that many are not satisfied with that and they go seeking other stimulation? Often compulsively so.

I believe that it has something to do with the social nature of our design. We are social creatures. We are designed to be with others. So, like many things, it's always so much more enjoyable to do something with someone else. Whether it's eating a meal, going to a movie, having a chat (yes some of us speak to ourselves...hehe), or having sex... everything is enhanced by interaction with others.

Naturally, the best sex to be had is to be had with someone to whom you are attracted. But even sex with someone to whom you are not attracted can be better than solo masturbation itself (trust me... being married... I know this).

Since guys are visually arroused to a large degree, porn also makes sex better. One can have a far more exciting orgasm when looking at porn than one can generally achieve on one's own. By comparison, solo masturbation without porn is generally more dull. Masturbation without even fantays is rather flat and sometimes even non-stimulating for some.

So.
If I know that good "foreplay" (ie: interaction with another person either directly, through porn, or through fantasy) makes for better more fulfilling sex what do I do about that?
Seek out an illicit partner(s)? Get married? Turn to porn? Fantasise?... each option is lesser by degree.
If we aren't married (or if we are married and get little or no sex) then I suggest we need to take responsibility for our own foreplay.

If we want to keep away from ilicit sex and porn then we need to invest some energy in giving ourselves good foreplay so that we are not drawn away to more stimulating activity involving others.

I find that touching myself erotically from time to time throughout the day (not in public view of course), treating my body with gentle touches and carresses, and building up a developed and exciting sexual fantasy before I masturbate all help to improve the quality of my masturbation experience.... and quality foreplay there makes porn and illicit sex far less desirable.... and certainly NOT compelling.

I hope these thoughts are helpful to some.

Blessings
Cat.