And all I'm trying to do is let you off that hook.

If you had more money you could move into a rooming house and take mr. lazybones with you, and then you'd also be well reconciled with your mom's needs. As things stand, though, she's taken the responsibility out of your hands. I'm sure she takes your viewpoints seriously, but there are times when the manager has to make a decision. And she did.

How does your friend come to have no family whatsoever?

By the way, I'm sorry to hear you were sexually abused for years. That's really rough. I've known another person who had that happen and, to make a long story short, he doesn't have anywhere near your level of compassion and human feeling. You have a good heart and a great Saviour.