I have an agreement with my YF's mom that I won't breach his confidentiality. (I would if it was life-and-death, of course.)

She'd rather I knew what was going on than him not telling any adult.

In actual fact, the Wall of his Facebook and its over 200 potential readers may know even more than I do (unless I log on that day). No sooner did he first get stoned on pot than he joined some Facebook group about it. He was too embarrassed to tell me to my face.

Our clandestine mom/AF teamwork did very well in a recent crisis. These days when his mom sees me she says "SUP?" Yes, his characteristic greeting has become our code word.

His deepest, darkest secrets involve who his latest girl interest is, and only his Facebook Wall knows those secrets. I see them there but I keep quiet until he tells me personally. So even I respect his Wall's confidentiality :P We pretend it's a little world that only 14 yo's can see. I don't post on it, ever. I maintain the illusion.