It appears that with the Christian faith, even without getting the church involved, comes a great big sense of shame. Sexual shame, to be precise. I've been struggling with it a lot recently.

I am by nature a rather shameless person, and I only feel guilt when it is something I genuinely need to improve about myself.

Many religious people will lie about their sexuality, and pretend that they are more 'pure' than they really are. Either that, or they will assume that since they are 'pure', everybody else should be like them.

Sexual shame is one of the hardest thing for me to understand. Things are sinful because they hurt you or others, right? Sex is a sin IN THAT a constant desire for it can turn men into liars who constantly hunger for it and destroy themselves as well as the minds of the people they abuse. It is the same with food. It is wrong to eat too much and steal other people's food. But are we going to start saying that EATING in of itself is sinful?

I feel like it would destroy me to have some kind of seperation from the body complex. And I am starting to think that it probably destroys a lot of people on the inside already who try to live with it.

Isn't it possible to see the beauty in lustful thought without feeling ashamed. I know I wouldn't chase after sex, I'm just not like that. However, identifying with my sexual feelings is very important to me. It's a COMFORT. Like MUSIC. I don't find myself wanting MORE and MORE. I used to be like that with pornography when I was 14, but I have long since changed. So, and I'm sorry to bring the truth of spiritual relativism back into awareness, why should it be sinful for me, when I hurt NOBODY?