Well, we always have to reconcile what our fantastical minds want us to do with what reality will actually allow.

Wanting to shag a 7 yo (to be hypothetical) and have it be a loving relationship is like wanting to fly off a cliff using your arms alone and having it become a perfect soar down to a safe landing.

Dreams allow it but reality is not cooperative.

On the other hand, reality IS malleable to an extent, so you need to look seriously into what shagging IS legitimately possible within your range of natural endowments. And, if none is, you need to consider what could maximize your exchange of love without sex per se being involved.

Still, for example, I know a BL who has a cute 23 yo boyfriend who looks like a teen. Sexual relationships are in the cards for some of us. Unfair, but it's true.

When it comes to younger guys, here's where the holy spirit is a big help. Here's where holding to God's love and the unquestionable good of the other person involved is absolutely important.

As you know from our discussions about free will, the holy spirit is only perceptible because He adds information to us. If He were just an excited, inspired feeling, He wouldn't be interacting with us a Person of the Trinity (if you know that line of terminology, Nicean creed stuff). It's easy to imagine shagging a small boy when that boy is just a cute, bouncy object to your mind, but when the holy spirit brings forth his full spirit and personality to you, you can't offend him. Your mind maybe once could have rationalized, 'well, maybe he wouldn't mind this' or 'maybe though 11 he's as horny for c-ck as I am' and all sorts of twists and turns that project your fantasies on his personality, but with the holy spirit, you can't escape his real personality. Loving him, then, you can't transgress.

It can be a very sweet feeling to be blocked by the Lord from shagging a boy. It's love.