Let me clarify. Intergenerational sex can mean a lot of things, from a 40 year old man (or woman) having sex with a 25 year old of the opposite sex to a 60 year old having sex with a toddler. I personally don't find it acceptable for an adult to have sex with someone who is maybe younger than 16. But I acknowledge than I'm influenced by my enviroment and what society has taught me. In other cultures and other times, it seems perfectly acceptable for older males to wed much younger girls as long as the girls were at least past puberty. So since the Bible doesn't say anything against such practices, I try to keep an open mind. But just because the Bible doesn't forbid it, doesn't mean God thinks it's ok. It may very well be like slavery; something that was common in Biblical days and not specifically forbidden, but probably not in God's ideal plan. Like I said, I just keep an open mind.

I would like to be able to keep an open mind when it comes to gay sex, at least in a committed relationship. I really would. Like I mentioned before, I have a few gay friends who are very dear to me, and a few gay aquaintences who are good people and deserve happiness in their lives. I've felt their pain when a relationship took a bad turn, and felt their joy when they found that "special" person. They know I accept them, but they also know I can't tell them I approve of the lifestyle. I really wish I could. In my own mind I find it very hard to accept that real love between 2 adults, and the expression of that love, can be wrong. But God didn't consult ME when He wrote the Bible, nor ahould He. I can't pick and choose what I want to believe. I either accept the whole Bible as the word of God, or I must disregard all of it as a work of mere men. It has proven too trustworthy in my own life and in others' thru the years for me to disregard it. I've heard and read some explanations or rationalities about what the Bible says about gay sex, but I've found them to be rather far fetched. That's why I was curious as to what take RobertI has on it. My spirit WANTS to be able to believe God thinks gay physical love is ok at least in some circumstances, but my logical mind has never been able to explain away what the Bible says about it.

A persuasive school of thought is that if God IS love, how can He be against any real and true love and the expession of that love? A valid point, to a degree. But that still doesn't explain away what the Bible says. Another thought is why would God allow someone to be gay, yet forbid them any way to satisfy yearnings that He put in all of us? Another valid point, but still not a way around the Bible. The main reason I don't put much credence in either of those arguments is because of my own situation. I'm not attracted to men either physically or emotionally. But I AM attracted to boys both physically and emotionally. I feel the same yearnings for boys that gays feel for their partners. As is the case with many boylovers, I feel my life is incomplete without that special boy I can love and who can love me. The joy I've felt when I had that special yf is the same joy gays feel when they find that special someone. And the pain is the same also when that yf moves on and I'm left alone again. If the above stated argument would be true for gays, then they would hold true for me and all boylovers also. But I find that totally unacceptable. Boylovers, by definition, can never have a lifelong committed relationship with a boy. The boy always grows up, and the dynamics of the relationship either evaporate or at least change. Also, a young boy is not old enough to feel the same kind of love for a man that the man can feel for him. Yes, he can love. Of course he can love. And his love can sometimes be intense. But it still isn't the same as it is for the man. Boys' love is generally more akin to what he feels for a father, whereas blers love is usually more romantic in nature. My point is that while gays' love can be pretty much mutual and alike, man/boy love cannot. And of course there are all the examples of when man/boy physical love has done real harm to the boy. {I hope Blackstone doesn't jump in here and ask me for statistics and percentages. :)} And there is also that nagging admonition against same sex sex from the Bible that would apply to man/boy sex. So I must reject the above arguments for myself and other boylovers. And if I reject those arguments, I must accept that God, for whatever reason, must want me to live my life without fully realizing that special relationship I crave. I can still have relationships, just not to the degree I would like. I don't think God delights in my, or anyone's feelings of loss or emptyness. I think that for some unknown reason I turned out to be a boylover, and God doesn't want me to fully indulge in that aspect of my makeup. Considering what God has done, and is doing for me, is that really such a terrible thing to ask? His grace is sufficient. And if God would ask that of me and boylovers, maybe He is asking that of gays. Just a thought.

Dakota