I share Chris' worry.

If there was a sign what would stop non-BLs from finding it out and using it to entrap us into revealing ourselves.

Sometimes I've wished and wished for a sign. When you see someone and you're pretty sure they are a BL and you just want to be able to go up and say... I see what you're doing with those boys... I get it.

Once I was in a McDonalds and this older guy comes in surrounded by a gang of 5 shirtless 10yos. Obviously coming back from some beach camp or something (they had a lot of gear with them). He was so into them and they were so into him. To me it seemed pretty obvious, but there was no sublte way to communicate. I just looked over and smiled and he smiled back but who knows if there was any knowing acknowledgement in that.

As to what the sign would be?.... Boys have a characteristic habit of lifting their shirt and rubbing their hands on their belly... so perhaps a more subtle (non-shirt lifting) belly rub.

Blessings
Cat.