I apoligise for the delayed response as I havent checked this board for a while. I thank you for taking the time to respond, I am glad that you have found fulfilment in a marriage however it is definetly not a suitable arrangment for me.

Even though all of us here are BL's we are still very different as people, as much as I have considered marriage its my difference in character to you that would make this very uncomfortable for me. I am the sort of person that can only devote myself to things that Im only deeply passionate about, its all or nothing for me and if I ended up with a female that was nothing more than a companion I could hoenstly not make it work, even if I tried it would fall apart somewhere down the line, I know this with all my heart. Marriage is hard enough for heterosexual people let alone for a BL to persue it without a physical attraction, without this attraction I would find it difficult to tolerate any disagrements we may have. This is just one aspect.

Secondly, Im an open book, I hate being deceitful and holding back on how I really feel, its bad enough being a BL and living this secret life so I choose to be as honest as I can in every other aspect of my life to feel somewhat liberated. Im also a very very firm believer in Karma, so unless I was able to tell a female straight up from the start that I was a BL and made some sort of arrangment still marry her if she still accepted who I was then this might work otherwise there is no way in hell I would ever marry anyone without telling them about this, lies always hurt people eespecially once they are uncovered and I for one have made a pledge to never hurt another human being in any way.

I dont know what your arrangment is in your marriage and its not my business to judge you but I am only just speaking here of how my mind operates and I live my horrible life based on these values and I hope you can understand I would feel very uneasy marrying someone who thinks I am physicaly and sexually attracted to them, it would really further complicate my life trying to maintain that order just to avoid hurting them, I have really thought deeply into this and its really not for me, but I am glad your able to make it work.

All the best

I would feel very uneasy